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| Our Three Amigos |
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“I’m picking up good vibrations…” Most of us are familiar with this Beach Boys hit and some of us even like to turn it up when the sun is high and we are poolside in the summer heat. After all, the music and the lyrics can’t help but bring out the good emotions we all enjoy feeling. But what do we do when those vibrations aren’t so good?
Emotions are the essential energy within us. They are the EnergyMotions that are crucial not only to our overall health and wellbeing; they are the energy with which we manifest our lives. Yet too often we find ourselves not wanting to experience the ‘not so good’ vibrations of our emotions.
You know which ones they are. They are the anger that suddenly erupts when we’re cut off in holiday traffic. It’s the melancholy sorrow that comes when we have to leave old friends at the end of the visit. There is sadness, contempt, disapproval and oh so many more.
Yet, behind these and any emotion is a wealth of information about who you truly are that is being mirrored back to you by the events that are occurring and how you are perceiving them.
Before we have the experience of any emotion, there is first a thought that occurs. This thought happens so quickly that most people are seldom able to see it as it happens or even catch up to it after it has happened. Instead they get swept away by the emotional wake the thought has caused.
I once had a boss that was very good at creating these emotional waves within me. Every time I spoke with him he was quick to point out the one area that was lacking and not recognizing all of the other areas in which I was excelling. Evidently, he came from the belief that ‘anger is a motivator’ and the more he angered his subordinates the more he would get out of them.
He would be correct that anger motivates, however, my anger was created and motivated by my thoughts stemming from my fears and beliefs. Those fears and beliefs were easy to identify when I started seeing the thoughts that preceded the emotions.
One of those was the thought that I was a failure as a person because I hadn’t stepped up in one area of my job. Upon seeing this I could laugh at the thought, but the fear and belief underlying it was a bit overwhelming. There was the fear of being without an income or employment, the fear of failing at something and the fear of not being accepted.
All of these fears were just false evidence appearing real. The perception within my mind, in the beliefs that I acquired and constructed needed to be looked at. The easiest way to begin this process was to realize that as a soul having a physical experience, the perception of these fears was built upon a fallacy and that I was not those things even if they did occur in my life.
My reaction to this boss didn’t change until I dealt with the underlying fears and beliefs about myself and life. When I changed those, I was no longer angry when I had to deal with that person. However, the change in me definitely created a change in him and after most of our conversation he was the one with his own emotional wake to deal with.
The vibration of our emotion is feedback on our lives and shouldn’t be ignored. I have a relative that absolutely detests conflict and will go to any length to avoid any conversation or situation in which emotions might arise. It makes me wonder what they are doing with the inner conflicts that arise in their lives, are these avoided as well. I hope not after all, when we delve into the conflicts that cause the vibrations of life a wealth of treasure can be found about how we are creating and perceiving our life.
My wife, Lisa and I are on the opposite side of that relative. We will let it all hang out and say what’s on our minds at the drop of a hat. This leads to some wild exchanges with raised voices that often end with an absurd comment that changes it all to laughter. Those that witness these moments often do so with their mouths gapped open and wide eyed. Then they often comment how they wish they could do that with their spouse.
Knowing you are not the emotion, you are not the thought that sparked the emotion, nor are you the belief that created the thought and perception make emotions far less threatening. When you understand the vibrational EnergyMotion within you is simply feedback that is asking you to look deeper within, it takes the fear out of experiencing them.
It is when we stuff, deny, avoid and control our environment in an attempt to control which emotions we feel that life begins to go awry. When we don’t use them as the feedback they were meant to be or allow ourselves to experience them in all of their intensity that we begin to affect our overall health and wellbeing.
And when we don’t look at where the thoughts, perceptions and beliefs from which our emotions stem from, we create more of them. Unexpressed they intensify within us and perpetuate themselves in the events we create as our lives.
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